3 year old Charity in her messy room
40 years later.... 3 Year old Natalie in her not quite as messy room
During the many years we were waiting to adopt a child from China I would often wonder what our child's personality would be like. Would she be a super energetic child who never slows down or a child who likes to read and enjoys quiet activities? It turns out that Natalie and I have very similar personalities. We both enjoy a balanced mix of rowdy and quiet fun. We are both extremely reflective introverts. And despite the messy room pics above we are both very organized and detail oriented.
Sometimes we are so much alike that I temporarily forget that Natalie is adopted. We have, however, already started having talks about her birth mother in China. At 3 years old Natalie is already asking the hard questions. "Why wasn't I in your tummy?" "Why was I at the orphanage?" I answer her as honestly and simply as I can. I never expected to have these types of conversations at such a young age, but hopefully we are laying a foundation that will help her better understand her past as she gets older. In the meantime, we will enjoy learning even more about each other and feeling gratitude every day that we were the fortunate people that were chosen to be parents to this amazing little girl.
from: Sue Golden
1 year ago